I’ve been in a relationship with my current girlfriend for over a year now. It’s been an amazing ride so far. I am truly lucky and grateful to wake up to her each and every morning. I can honestly say that I wouldn’t be in this position if it wasn’t for the dating advice community. If you put the work in, the body of shared information in this community can change your life like you wouldn’t believe. I’m a living breathing example. Yet, once I actually got myself into a relationship, I made a conscious effort not to take anymore advice from the community. Neil Strauss talked about this dilemma in The Game, how pickup gurus are amazing at teaching guys how to get girlfriends, but stand clueless on actually keeping one. A scary fact is that most of the figure heads in the pickup community have a difficult time maintaing long-term relationships. Don’t get me wrong, most of them are amazing men who consciously chose to walk away from their relationships, but either way this didn’t sit well with me. My overarching goal when I entered the community wasn’t to be the three-some master, or to have a rotation of 10+ girls, it was to ultimately find a long-term partner.